Terrie Lynn for NottHeads – Chokkklit Shop
Are you at the top of his Christmas list or the hohoho?
Xmas Ho Ho Ho
What do the intimate expect for Christmas?
Now, I really don’t want this article to sound like an exchange of sex for Christmas goods, but if you’re in an intimate relationship, what should be under your Christmas tree? I know Christmas isn’t about the getting, but the giving. But are you giving a great gift from your heart and he’s giving a damn? Technically, a man only has 3 times a year to put in the additional effort, Birthday, Christmas and Valentine’s Day. For most women, it isn’t so much about the gift, but the need she has to feel special…
There are some ladies who expect way too much, but on the flip side, you have a lot of ladies who accept way too little. If three times a year is too much for him to go that extra mile, maybe it’s time to reevaluate your relationship. Now I’m not saying dump the dude over a Christmas gift, but step back and really look at how you are treated, not just on holidays, but all year round.
- It might be a simple solution, just you speaking up, not acting a fool, but just saying what’s on your mind. You want to receive a gift from a cheerful giver.
- For some reason, you may have gotten use to you putting in more work into the relationship than he does. This can become a very bad habit. Backup and allow him to put some work in.
- You may need to stop subjecting yourself to mediocrity. Now you’ll be a little pissed off if you settle for so little, and the next girl comes along and he plays Santa for her. It can happen! When early in the relationship you allowed it to be that way and he sees how you accepted it, why should he behave differently?
- You might have to re-adjust your priority list. If you’re in an intimate relationship, you should rank the same with each other. One should not be doing so much more than the other.
Sisters stop asking Sisters
“Men are like dogs! You have to train a man to treat you like you want to be treated.
But you also have to train yourself not to settle! Start out right from the jump!
Now if he doesn’t get you anything, like I said, just re-evaluate the relationships. For some guys, they play a relationship like a game of poker, they bluff all year about what they’re going to do, and then when that special time comes, he plays a bad hand. “No Christmas nookie for him.” Make sure he knows that you love and respect yourself and that you deserve to be treated like he does.
But to convey this, there is no need for drama and temper tantrums. You can let him know by being just as ‘sweet as pie’. But you have to speak it. Men are not mind readers, if you never let him know…how will he know.
Terrie Lynn for NottHeads – Chokkklit Shop
#1 by Helen Davis Duboise on December 23rd, 2010
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Great job! Girl I had to re-evaluate my relationship about 5months ago and now I’m single because I could no longer allow myself to be cheated, life is too short! Gotta Keep It Movin! LOL
#2 by Theo on January 9th, 2011
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Yeah, most women want too much. You have Christmas all year. You want your hair and nails done every other week. You want to go out to dinner every Sunday. If you don’t feel special, a gift on Christmas will not do the trick.